Today, I would like to introduce an amazing tool to you that can use to create balance, find your values, and feel fulfilled in your life. This tool is called the Wheel of Life. As a life coach, I believe that this is one of the most important tools you can use to figure out:
How balanced is your life?
Why does it look this way?
Do you want to make any changes in your life?
If even one area of your life is off, it can seep into other areas of your life and cause unhappiness.
The main goal is to figure out how satisfied you are and how you can bring more joy into your life. If I just ask the question, “what brings you joy”? You might not know the answer but this exercise will get you one step closer!
The Wheel of Life Instructions
To complete this exercise, all you need is a piece of paper and a pen. I want this exercise to be as easy as possible so all you need is a piece of paper, nothing fancy because I know many times, you’ll read this post on your phone (especially me!) and not on a computer near a printer. So any paper, napkin, notebook, etc. will do! Begin by drawing a circle with a dot in the middle of the circle like this:
OK, now look at the following categories: family, friendship, home, relationship/love, money, career, health, faith, charity, passions, and other. As you go through each section on the wheel of life you’re going to rate it. For this rating system, you have two choices:
- Use numbers between 1 to 10. 10 being the highest or happiest.
- Use happy, sad, or so-so faces.
If you are more analytical, then numbers might work best for you. If you are more visual, then faces might work best for you. It doesn’t matter what you choose, just get started. There is no right or wrong answer with the wheel of life, just take time to figure out what makes you happy, which area needs work and what is important to you.
Here’s a breakdown of the categories:
How connected are you to your family and do you want more time with them? Do you like your relationship with them currently?
How important to you is a community? Do you feel that you have a good relationship with them? Do you want anything to change in this area? For example, do you want to see your friends more? less?
How is your home life? Is it bringing you joy? Do you feel happiness when you are in certain rooms in your house? Do you like your neighborhood?
Relationships or love:
Do you feel fulfilled in your current relationship? Are you in a relationship that you want to be in? If you’re not, do you want one to be in one?
How satisfied are you with your finances? Do you feel that you are going in the right direction? Do you feel that you are bringing in enough money to do the things that fulfill you?
Are you satisfied with where your career is today? Do you feel like you’re on the right track career-wise? Is there anything that you feel is lacking in your career?
How satisfied are you with your health today? Is there anything you need to change? Do you need to gain weight? Do you need to lose weight? Do you want more energy? Do you want more sleep?
Faith or spirituality:
Do you feel like you are connected with your own spirituality? Do you want to feel closer to God or whoever you believe it? Is religion a big part of your life? Do you feel like something is lacking or are you satisfied with your level of spirituality?
Do you feel that you are in a giving place in your life? Do you feel like you want to give back more to your community or the world? Do you want to give back via money or time? Are you satisfied in this area?
How satisfied are you with your hobbies? Are you doing any activities that you are passionate about? Do you feel that you are doing things that are making you a happier person?
This is anything that is important to you that I didn’t list on our wheel of life. I couldn’t list everything but I listed the typical ones that applies to the majority of my clients during my coaching sessions.
Divide your Wheel of Life into sections listed above. After dividing the sections, go through and rate each category from 1 to 10 or use your happy faces as we discussed. Here’s a picture of both so you get the idea.
After rating each section, it’s time to look at the wheel and reflect on it. You will notice that some areas look very fulfilled while other areas needs improvement. Remember do not judge yourself and just look at your wheel of life – you should come from a place of neutrality. This is all about learning who you are, what you like and what’s important to you. It’s not about being disappointed or beating yourself up because you didn’t get all 10s.
As you do this refection, note what your thoughts are and any insights. How do you feel when you look at your wheel? Do you feel happy? Surprised? Sad? Note these answers because it’s very important to figuring out what is going to eventually make you the happiest you can be. Then begin to think about what stands out for you? And what areas you would like to change the most?
After self-reflection, I urged you to go a little bit deeper on the wheel of life. Pick one area that you feel needs improvement and you are READY to change. You can do this by asking some of the following questions:
If this area was a 10, how would it look to you?
What do you need to do to change in this category to rate it a 10 or only happy faces?
Can you do anything in the next 30 days to improve this area?
What two steps can you take this week to start improving your life in this category so that next year this time you will have a 10?
Remember to just choose one category unless it overlaps because you’re more likely to follow through. You should review your wheel of life every six months and see what progress you have made and make adjustments as you go. I hope this is a great starting point for goal setting and growth. In my next post, I will teach you the beginning steps of creating a goal and following through on it.