Don’t let life happen to you, you need to be in the driver’s seat steering, not in the passenger’s seat hoping for the best! Make today the day that you truly start to live life to the fullest in every decision that you make. If you understand your values and what matters most, goal setting will be easier and you’ll be able to go in the right direction.
Before you figure out your goals, we need to discuss values (and what it means) versus needs.
Values are our ideals and can be defined as the most personal aspect of our individual beliefs.
They make-up each person’s true core and we all have them. They are individual specific, but people can share common values. For example, people often value being honest, being respectful and open minded in a conversation and throughout their lives. Needs are the emotional aspects that drive individuals. They are the driving force for what humans want as a whole. Often needs will direct major life decisions until they are fully met in the person. You can often SEE (and feel their energy) how a person is feeling and if they are happy when they are living their lives based on their values. People need food, air, water, and shelter. People have to be accepted, acknowledged, loved, and be cared for.
A want is something that we wish for or desire. Wants are flexible and sometimes are optional. Sometimes if you get what you want, then you’re happy, and if you don’t then you could still be OK. When our values increase, a portion of our wants can decrease and we can still be happy. For example, if a person WANTS a big house or to have a great body but if their values (feeling loved by their partner and safe) is truly met, they will be OK with a smaller house and 10 pounds overweight and not totally unhappy.
I want to take a closer look at values because understanding your values are so important.
Values guide decision-making, your personal conduct and how you interact with everything in the world.
Understanding your values will help you understand what is really important to you and your life so it’s essential to understand this. If you haven’t had a chance yet, make sure you take a look at the key areas of your life like the wheel of life, and how each area affects your mindset as a whole. This will prompt thoughts on what you want to change in your life and also get a sense of how balanced you are. Based on this important factor, you will begin to see goals that you want as a result based on your values. Remember values govern how you act, how you feel, and how you find meaning in your life. Your values guide every action you make so understand what you believe in the most and always reference this when goal setting. When you live within your values, you will feel connected, excited, and life becomes effortless. It will take us closer to personal satisfaction and to lead a more fulfilling life.
I hope this exercise below will help you understand your values better and you’ll be able to live a more fulfilled life and become one step closer to Who you are.
What three things do you like most about yourself? Who are three people you admire and why? What are your top five values?
Then take some time thinking about yourself and answer the following questions:
What do you like in yourself? and what do you like in others?
What do you see as your top values?
Why are these values important to you?
How do you feel about yourself when you’re living within your values?
How do you feel when you are not living within your values?
Start by brainstorming some of these thoughts. What three changes can you make today or put into place today to help you live and express these values more often?
Use this as a starting point for your goals –
Ask yourself every time you make a decision and create a new goal, does this align with your values and add to your well being?
Will the goal help you closer to your values or further away?
Once you do this exercise, things will seem much clearer and you will have less mental energy wasted on things you do not like.
And what you think about this before we began is very important to know and to have a starting point so when you complete the goal, it will truly be something you desire.
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